7 Ways To Quiet Our Worries

Do you worry? Like, a lot? If you do, you are perfectly normal. Everyone worries. At least I think so. If by some chance you don’t worry, you probably don’t need this post. Take your Matthew McConaughey temperament to another post (perhaps you might like this one).

I don’t have any ideas for how to eliminate worrying altogether. All I can do is make the worries you do have a little quieter. Actually, I may not even be able to do that. I should point out that this post is not scientific. At all. I can’t promise these ideas will work for you. But they seem worth a try. Especially if you have to choose between trying these ideas and continuing to worry.

With that disclaimer out of the way. Here are 7 ways to quiet our worries:

1. Schedule Your Worrying

Worrying is at its worst when it takes over our entire day. We are paralyzed if we let it permeate into our entire schedule. If we don’t want to let worry creep up on us, we should schedule it into our week. Pick one 30 minute time period and do all your worrying then. For instance pick Thursday at 6:30pm. If you start to worry at 11am on Tuesday, stop, set it aside and tell yourself you will get back to it during its regularly scheduled programming.

2. Write Down Your Worries

During your scheduled worry time, write everything you have to worry about. Hopefully you’ll find that the list isn’t as long, or scary as you may have thought. And I bet once your see some of your worries on paper, you may not be as intimidated as you once were.

3. Sing A Song About Your Worries

Channel your inner Weird Al and make up a dumb song featuring your list of worries. See if you can get it to rhyme to Gangster’s Paradise. Seems silly, I know, but so are most of your worries.

4. Worry About The Worst

If writing down your worries didn’t make them shrink in stature, try the opposite approach. Consider this question: Whats the worst that can happen? As I have written before, considering the worst possible scenario can make us feel more in control. When we are nervous, the unknown is actually scarier than something negative. By painting an image of the worst case, we lessen the unknown and begin to feel in charge.

5. Remember Previous Worries

Remember when we were all worried about Y2K? All that worrying feels a little over the top now, doesn’t it? Chances are, most of our worries actually result in a huge negative impact on our day. If we can recall some silly worries from our past, maybe we can get some confidence that our current worries aren’t so bad.

6. Distract Yourself With Right Now

We don’t worry about the present, we worry about the future. If you start to worry outside of your scheduled worry time, then try distracting yourself with the now. Fight tomorrow’s problems tomorrow. Use today’s strength to focus on today.

7. Hand Over Your Worries

If you are religious, pray. Hand over your worries to God. If doing that makes you want to throw up in your mouth, hand your worries over to a spouse, friend, parent – anyone else. I am not suggesting you unload your burden on someone else. Just ask for help, guidance or a person to talk to.

23 Ways To Fail As A Writer

Many times, I will read something online and immediately think, “that was great, I wish I wrote it.” I may not have written it, but I can still share it. Here’s the latest…

How To Fail As A Writer by Dawn Field.

In a hilarious post for the Book Baby blog, Field provides 23 tips that will “help you stave off success and fail as a writer!” #12 and #20 are my favorites. Among many other things, she discusses:

  • what to do with an opening line
  • why we don’t need hobbies
  • and how sleep is overrated

After you read this list, you will feel much better about your chances to avoid failure as a write…I hope. Check it out…

How To Fail As A Writer

An Example of Awesome Parenting

I do not have any kids, but I do have a general sense of the job description of a parent. Among other things, a parent must have the following:

  • hands that act as a thermometers
  • eyes in the back of their heads
  • an uncanny ability to embarrass their teenager

A parent needs to prepare their kids for the real world — not by pretending it will be free of rainstorms, but by giving them an umbrella and helping them find the rainbow.

The other night I met a mom who deserves parent of the year nomination.

Her 4-year-old daughter, Marie, was in the hospital, undergoing an intense form of cancer treatment. Marie and I were playing a board game when she noticed a couple of scars on my hand.

What are those from? she asked.

I replied that they were from playing basketball. She said,

I’m sorry, that must have hurt. I have a scar on my head. It looks like a princess crown.”

In one sentence, the little girl expressed compassion, awareness and a positive attitude. She felt bad that I had scars — even if they were only the size of peanuts. She was fully aware of why she was in the hospital — and that cancer made her different. That being said, she had an amazing ability to see her scars not as something scary, but as something that made her a princess.

I would bet everything I own that she has her mother to thank for those qualities. I don’t know her mom at all, but I would imagine that she told her daughter the importance of caring for others, why she had scars and how she can turn them into something not-so-scary.

To turn this into a Harry Potter analogy, rather than trying to Voldemort the cancer (turning it into something that shall not be named), Marie’s mom helped me see her daughter’s scars as a sign of a mothers love.

That is some awesome parenting.

Where Do Ash Wednesday Ashes Come From?

Today is Ash Wednesday, the beginning of the 40-day period leading up to Easter, known as Lent. Ash Wednesday gets its name from the tradition Catholics observe of having ashes applied to their foreheads in the shape of the cross.

Churches are stocked full of ashes so that priests and deacons can really cake on the Catholic finger paint to their parishioners faces. But where do they get the ashes?

Let’s find out in today’s edition of Wonder Why Wednesday…

Where do Ash Wednesday ashes come from?

Answer: Ash Wednesday ashes are made from by burning of palms blessed on the previous year’s Palm Sunday.

Churches pass out palm fronds during the Palm Sunday service. The palms represent the palm branches the crowd scattered before Jesus as he traveled into Jerusalem. After Palm Sunday, the palms are kept and burned. The burnt fronds are mixed with holy water and oil to create the Ash Wednesday ashes.