How To Bounce Back From Rejection Like Michael Jordan

Have you been shot down by your longtime crush? Perhaps you were informed you didn’t get that dream job?  Maybe you were even told you couldn’t sit at the cool lunch table.

The popular adage states that there are only two things certain in life: death and taxes. I’d suggest adding a third one: rejection.

Rejection is like that whip and nae nae song. We hear it way more than we would like and once it is in our heads, we think we will never be able to get it out.

Not only is rejection an emotional pain, but to our brain, it feels like a physical pain. fMRI studies have shown that when we experience rejection, the same areas of our brain become activated as when we experience physical injury.

And not only that, but social pain has been shown to be more easily relived than physical pain. So not only does rejection hurt like a black eye, it makes us feel like we will get punched in the face any time we think back to that moment.

Luckily for us, there is a surefire way to bounce back from rejection. To find out how, check out the new article I wrote Fulfillment Daily. You’ll see why we need to look no further than the great Michael Jordan.

How To Bounce Back From Rejection Like Michael Jordan – Fulfillment Daily


What Michael Jordan & Patrick Ewing Can Teach Us About Rejection

In the 1982 NCAA men’s basketball championship game, Georgetown center Patrick Ewing was given a very strict instruction…any shot that was taken near the rim, block it out of the building.

So that was exactly what Ewing did.

In the opening minutes of the game, the Hoyas center goaltended five Tar Heel shots. He swatted shot after shot, trying to send each one crashing into the rafters.

Observers of the game thought that maybe the freshmen was just nervous. But with one goaltend after another, it became obvious that nerves had nothing to do with it.

Ewing was doing it on purpose.

Before the game, Georgetown head coach John Thompson Ewing, “everything that comes to the rim, take it back, take it back.”

He was instructing his freshmen center to reject every single North Carolina shot. Even if it meant doing something illegal that would result in 2 free points for the opposing Tar Heels.

In basketball, a shot that is blocked at the rim during its downward motion is called goaltending. This results in points for the offense, regardless of whether the shot would have gone in or how far the defense blocks the ball.

So why did Thompson tell Ewing to block every single shot to start the game? Was he not aware of the goaltending rule?

Of course he knew the rule. But he chose to ignore it for one important reason.

He wanted to send a message to North Carolina.

Thompson later said that “kids don’t remember goaltending calls. They remember getting their shot blocked.”

He wanted Ewing to seem so imposing, so much larger than life, that he was willing to sacrifice a few points on the scoreboard to gain a few points in the mental game.

What may seem like an odd strategy actually makes a lot of sense.

As a basketball player, there are few things worse than having your shot blocked. You are quite literally getting rejected.

Outside of basketball rejection also sucks.

Thompson is right. We don’t always remember the circumstance surrounding the rejection. We just remember getting blocked.

That emotional, physical or mental block can take its toll on us.

It is how we respond to that rejection that determines the outcome.

Luckily for North Carolina, they were able to overcome the constant rejection. Despite Ewing’s imposing presence, they kept shooting.

Good thing they did.

Thanks to a game winning shot by a freshman guard you might have heard of named Michael Jordan, the Tar Heel went on to defeat Thompson and the Hoyas, 63-62.

You are going to constantly get rejected in life. Will you keep shooing?


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Fear Week – Fear Quotes

As fear week comes to a close, I hope that you not only enjoyed the content, but also learned something that can help you overcome your fear.

Just in case you didn’t, I thought it would be appropriate to share some great quotes about fear from people throughout history.

There are some brilliant people out there who can say more about fear in one sentence than I can in an entire week’s worth of blog posts.

Here are 10 awesome quotes that can be used to squash fear!

“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”  – Michael Jordan

“Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.” – Psalm 23:4

“Thinking will not overcome fear but action will.” – W. Clement Stone

“I failed my way to success.” – Thomas Edison

“The baby bat
Screamed out in fright,
‘Turn on the dark,
I’m afraid of the light.”
― Shel Silverstein

“We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.”  – Plato

“Where ever fear shadows…. that always means there is a light shining somewhere.” – Jonathan Santos

“Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgement that something else is more important than fear.” – Meg Cabot

“Try a thing you haven’t done three times. Once, to get over the fear of doing it. Twice, to learn how to do it. And a third time to figure out whether you like it or not.”Virgil Thomson

“I have learned over the years that when one’s mind is made up, this diminishes fear; knowing what must be done does away with fear.” – Rosa Parks

Fear Week – No Fear

As I started to put together upcoming blog posts, I began to notice that many had a common theme…fear.

Unfortunately, fear is a big part of our lives. There is much to write about it because it is something we are faced with on a daily basis.

So what do you do with a topic that people can relate to and that you have a lot of content on.

You copy the Discovery Channel and devote an entire week to it.

When the Discovery Channel realized that they had a lot of content on sharks they created Shark Week.

When I realized that I had a lot to say about fear, I decided to create Fear Week.

I am not doing this to scare people. Rather, I am doing this to shine the light on fear and help myself and other people overcome it.

To start off the week, I am using a Memory Monday post and taking you back to the 1990s. A time when Michael Jordan was the king of basketball, Michael Jackson was the king of pop and a little t-shirt company was the king of fear…

If you grew up in the 90s you are likely to remember the No Fear brand of clothing.

For those that don’t, No Fear was a clothing line created by Mark and Brian Simo in 1989 that gained popularity thanks to its somewhat inspirational sports related sayings.

Here are a few sayings that could be found on No Fear shirts…

  • “Bottom of the 9th. Bases loaded. Full count. Two outs. No Fear.”
  • “Bones heal, to play lasts forever. No Fear.”
  • “Been there wrecked that. I love this pain. No Fear.”
  • “Luck is for the rabbits. No Fear.”
  • “Fear tastes like chicken. No Fear.”

These shirts always contained a saying that sounded like they came from Ricky Bobby, followed by the words “No Fear.”

I remember even as a kid thinking the bases loaded saying was confusing. What team am I on? What is the score? If I am the pitcher and I am up 10, then of course I am not afraid.

Despite the confusing sayings, No Fear shirts were cool and made you feel tough.

But did they make you really have no fear?

Probably not. But what if we lived life like it was a No Fear shirt?

Yes, the sayings are silly and yes, I would feel a little strange as a grown up wearing a shirt that says fear tastes like chicken. But wouldn’t it be great to actually believe in no fear.

Unfortunately it is difficult to find one of these funny No Fear shirts for adults. No Fear filed for bankruptcy in 2011 as has since been purchased by new owners who have turned their focus to energy drinks.

So although we can’t look in the mirror and see “No Fear” on our shirt, next time fear is starting to creep into your life, image that you are wearing a shirt that says “been there wrecked that.”

Convince yourself that you have been in this situation before and you were successful. You’ve wrecked fear before and you’ll wreck it again.

Welcome to Fear Week…